Waya Todiscipline Childlren
KIDS are no angels.
Indeed,it is not uncommon tosee a 12-year-old cast aside-
old cast asides your perfectly sound advice and to do as
they please. ?Sadlly,this is a real trend,?says counseling
psycholoist and a lecturer at Bombay University,Deepti
Makhija,?and the sings are everywhere,parents often come to
me complaining that their kids have gone out-of-control or
don?t listen tothem anymore.?
parents need to discipline
themselves first before they canlaydown the rules for their
children.bygiving in to their each and everydemand. Kids
tend tobecome persistent,thanks to the many temptations
around them,and peer pressure. The trick for parents is to
unerstnd that theyneed not give in to the pressures. Be
firm,not strict. If theyhave an unreasonable demand then
reason it out withthem. Don?t just thrust your decision on
your child. Your lack of conviction would only embolden
their belief that theywere right in the first place.
Working parents hae little timeto spend with their kids .
In such case,parents must designate one day of the week
as ?family day? to spend quality time with their kids.
This should be fun-time,so muchso that kids wold look
forward to it everyweek. This also ensures a deeper bond
between parents and kids. Do not compare your kids with
other s. This upsets and demotivates them,often turning
them awayfrom the prents. Parents should focus on the
child?s strengths instead, and reward them accordingly.
Don?t harp on their weakness. Yes, as a parent you are
supposed to tell them what they can improve on but harping
on a shortcoming will only serve to demotivate is not
easy;all parents will vouch for that. But it can be a lot
easier if parents put themselves in the child?s shoes
before taking any decision.
I have got mykids tuned to a
1-2-3- formula. If the kids donot pay heed to may
advice,Icount tillthree? and if theydecide tobe stubborn
still, they face direc consequences. I have taught them
tolearnthe importance of sharing. They are appropriately
rewarded when they show acts of kidness. Tantrums are
never encouraged. Ispend quality time withthem and ensure
that they have fun. I have taught never to take moneyfor
granted. I give them chores around the house and reward
them with a rupee or two for the job done. They can then
buy what they please with their hard earned money.